Details: Formats- Kindle Edition ASIN: B00J8QDJIM File Size: 14036 KB Print Length: 352 ÷ Paperback ISBN-10: 1402293348/ISBN-13: 978-1402293344 352 pages Language – English Publisher – Sourcebooks (21 July 2014)
Book Synopsis: When Susan, a shy Midwesterner in love with Chinese culture, started grad school in Hong Kong, she quickly fell for Li, the man of her dreams. As they exchanged vows, Susan was sure her life was perfect…until things took a sinister turn. In her eye-opening memoir, Susan recounts her struggle to be the perfect Chinese wife to her increasingly controlling and abusive husband. At f first, she dismisses her own values to save the marriage. But when Li threatens to take their son, Jake, back to China f or good, Susan must find the courage to stand up for herself, her son, and her future.
DISCLAIMER: I received this book from NetGalley for review a while ago but then was asked by Sam Lien from JKSCommuni
This was a beautifully written book which told the story of a young girls life from being a post graduate student studying in Hong Kong to being a mother who leaves her marriage because her Chinese husband isn’t being supportive, which is why I would give it 5 stars & recommend it to other people.
It was a fascinating book because it enabled you to learn about Chinese culture and beliefs and how they can sometimes not mesh very well with western beliefs and customs. Although even taking that into account Cai did do so really nasty things even to their baby son, including threatening to send him back to China for his mother to raise him.
I also loved how Susan finally made the decision to Leave Cai finally when she got some legal advice about what would happen if Jacob was taken back to China against her wishes and found out that she likely wouldn’t be able to get him back. It was fantastic to see the light to ignite in her and made her make the decision to not to just leave Cai but to leave him that weekend, along with her son and with her mothers help to do it.
It was also very interesting to see how Cai reacted to the letter and the fact that Susan had left him because rather than getting really angry and detached as he usually would have done he actually was really upset, & heartbroken. But then following her leaving and their Divorce he rarely saw their son, no more than twice a year. However that was still more regular than how often he saw his daughter from his first Marriage.
I loved the fact that a chance meeting between two young people at University led to a marriage and the birth of a much wanted child, then to a separation and divorce.